Loved your barbie and Charlie MaCarthy doll stories...Puppets have ALWAYS freaked me out...clowns too...I think I may have Stephen King to thank for that one.
I've been around...mostly posting on a thread in the sexual issues forum and otherwise starting trouble with folks on the bb.
I haven't bothered to post much here cause there doesn't seem to be much of a point.
I pretty much annoy the crap out of anyone that does try to help.
I know the problems in my marriage are not unique...the thing that seems unique is that they began long before we were married so alot of the solutions people offer up just don't cut through the muck.
my m is what it is...I have a few choices...
1. accept it for what it is and do the best I can to keep myself happy and at all costs avoid complaining and/or having an a to get that intimacy I crave
2. try (yet again) to address the "issues" with h and hope that something changes
3. give up and be misserable
4. wait it out a while and make the best of it and then if nothing changes give up.
I've been around...mostly posting on a thread in the sexual issues forum and otherwise starting trouble with folks on the bb.
h called a bit ago...was supposed to be home @ 1 but now wont be home til @ 4...sounded dissapointed when he inquired if I had class tonight..don't get excited...it's simply because he's got some stuff to do outside and if I'm not here he will have to stop by 6:30 and be inside for the kiddos (dd wont go outside and goes to sleep by 7) I could walk into a dream world and fool myself into thinking he may have wanted me to be here to spend time with but I know what's real and what isn't.
h has been falling asleep on the couches for a few months now (something he did during his a) and rarely makes it up to bed in the middle of the night.
I haven't bothered to post much here cause there doesn't seem to be much of a point.
I pretty much annoy the crap out of anyone that does try to help.
I know the problems in my marriage are not unique...the thing that seems unique is that they began long before we were married so alot of the solutions people offer up just don't cut through the muck.
my m is what it is...I have a few choices...
1. accept it for what it is and do the best I can to keep myself happy and at all costs avoid complaining and/or having an a to get that intimacy I crave
2. try (yet again) to address the "issues" with h and hope that something changes
3. give up and be misserable
4. wait it out a while and make the best of it and then if nothing changes give up.
I think I'm going with option 7 for a while...been down all the other roads (actually think I've been down #7 road too) and they've led no where.
I am at a loss and don't know what to do anymore...I know there's someone in there...he just seems to be hiding..what is it now?? before I was lead to believe it was work...then I discovered in part it was ow...then work...then whotf knows..will this be my life forever? will it get any better?
as horrible as it sounds..I really wish I never married him in the first place...as much as I knew he'd work a lot and wasn't a huge social or doing things kind of person I didn't know it would be this bad and it only seems to be getting worse.
was sitting here (or there) thinking what it means to be a wife and perhaps I'm confused and a wife IS supposed to care for the home and the kids and then be so tired at the end of the day she just goes to sleep and pushes her h off of her or accepts with disinterest (that is after all the stereotypical w isn't it) but that just isn't me...
so a searching I went to my web dictionary and got a good laugh when I looked up the definitions of both h and w...
Main Entry: [2]husband Function: transitive verb Date: 15th century 1 a : to manage prudently and economically b : to use sparingly :
Main Entry: wife Pronunciation: 'wIf Function: noun Inflected Form(s): plural wives /'wIvz/ Etymology: Middle English wif, from Old English wIf; akin to Old High German wIb wife Date: before 12th century 1 a : dialect : WOMAN b : a woman acting in a specified capacity; used in combination <fishwife> 2 : a female partner in a marriage
hardi har har...looks like the jokes on me..I should have looked up the definitions BEFORE getting married.
LL, I only saw 4 options. What's option 7? You don't annoy me at all, but I can get really down and dirty myself when I'm obsessing. I talk crazy, and imagine all kinds of things. You feel how you feel. It is better to come here than not I think in your case. Without support I think you may spiral downhill fast and you do have SOME hope, so let's go with that for now, ok? Rachael
Cathy 
