Angel thanks! It is true we are so blessed by having the sound mind to hear God when he speaks. I know the Lord is teaching me many new things now and I hope H too. I fear as long as the OW is in H's life he will not learn what God is trying to teach. But, that being said, that is between H and God. I am working on my relationship with God because I know it will only enhance my M when H comes back. Oh, and he will come back because God has spoken this to me loud and clear on many occasions. Just as he has told me to be patient and all things happen in His time.
Never discount the power of God..He can deal with wayward husbands/MLC'ers in a way we cannot.
I have always known God will not cut through confusion; BUT, I had seen many things happen with my husband; that had made me question the Lord at times.
At that time; He told me NOT to ask questions; just allow Him to work in the situation; and within my husband.
His answer came through much later and was put to me this way many years ago; since God's Will comes first; He will do whatever it takes to keep His Will intact.
His thoughts and ways; don't match what we think about things; and so God works in mysterious ways.
So don't worry that OW is interfering with God; she can't do that; as God is powerful force to be reckoned with.
Let God continue His work in you, and when the time comes that your husband returns to you, as God HAS told you...you will then have the strength to deal with him as God instructs you to.
The only thing He hasn't told you is how long this it will take, before he returns.
Understand that God's time and our time is NOT the same; and so you'll have adequate time to strengthen, change and grow yourself up into what He has meant for you to be.
Making sure YOU are ready is important; and this where your changes come in..regardless of Him showing you that he will return to you..you must also do YOUR part in this.
When we do our part, God will do his; but if we don't, He will lengthen the time out, until we do.
I've seen this before; we have the tendency to sometimes "tie" the Lord's hands, because we fail to do what is required of us first.
When we grow, change and become...and things still don't come forward, just yet; it is because it is not time..going back to God's time and ours not being the same.
Yet, there are parts of our journey not taken until we start dealing with the MLC'er in earnest.
If they don't return; then the journey takes a different kind of turn; teaching you to survive on your own; God does, indeed, take care of His own.
There were some things; several aspects of boundary setting, that I didn't learn until I started dealing with my husband later in the crisis; and I learned many lessons that would NOT have been learned had he moved out, entirely.
These for you, will be learned once he returns to you; and they are unique to your particular situation..but you will know as they come up to be seen/learned.
But, for now, you'll need to continue letting go of your husband; and continuing the ongoing work on yourself.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
