Can't believe this. Not more than a minute after my last post, my wife confronts me about the list of payable items I sent her last night. Basically, she was (in her words) asking questions, but they were more accusatory. Things like, are you trying to screw me over, why is this so high. For example:
A. I sent our dog to the groomer at a local pet business. Thought I'd support and try out local businesses, rather than Pet Co or something. On that day I sent our dog she asked to let her know how much she needs to pay. I said I'd let her know. Today, on the other hand, she said "You knew that I was going to pay so you chose the more expensive place to take our dog to." Taken aback by that, I said, "You don't have to pay, you know, if it's such a problem for you."
B. Cable -- she asked why are we paying $60 for just Internet? Are you trying to screw me over? To which, I was, like, WHAT? We're on Comcast and to have Internet you need at least Basic Cable. She then told me she was checking on how much it'll cost her when she moves, it was much cheaper. "I'm just asking because you have made stupid mistakes and are manipulative." I left it at that because I thought my wife is smarter than that. Of course the price is cheaper...for the first 12 months introductory price, then the rates go up!
C. Then I said that I think she shouldn't drive her car so I can take care of it for her. She said (in her words while she was busy looking through the pantry for cereal) "I wasn't planning to." It was as if I owe her or something. Like she felt she had the right to commandeer any vehicle she wanted to.
From my POV, especially coming from what I heard last night, I am deeply soured by her attitude and struggling to be her best friend. Hope is still alive in me, and thank you letting me rant.
I will confront her about a few things that she still paints this picture that I'm manipulative of certain everyday tasks and chores, such as bills and logistics. The reason why I think I should backtrack is because I should have spoken up when I was questioned during those times, but I was so unprepared that I feel like they were missed opportunities. I need to clear the air some, otherwise she'll keep walking around questioning every decision, action and changes I make. Then again, maybe it's pointless.
