Wife left me -

[lostnhurt]

LIL,

I remember reading your posts before, I was still reading the board back in Sept. Im really sorry to hear that you've been going thru this since July and it has not gotten any easier.

Im trying to remain strong, I do pretty well when my girls are here, they keep me busy, I enjoy being with them, and Im not alone. Sometimes they'll ask difficult questions, but Im just honest with them.

My W thinks if she's happier, our girls will be happier and everyone will be happier. I told her Im not happy and she has no reply for that.

And yes, I know she's rationalizing everything, even just some really crazy stuff, she's totally set in her decision, and wants D now that she's moved out. In fact I finally filed in Nov, where I live, there is no legal separation and she started spending, including buying new car. I had to protect myself, I still have the petition, have yet to give it to her in hopes she would change her mind.

Not so sure I see her coming out of the fog, she's getting a lot of bad advice from her new 'friends', most of whom are younger, and also going thru separation or D. Her OM was recently D so I am sure they are both just feeding of each other situation.

You are more optimistic then me about my marriage, cause I don't see much chance at this point. Im keep telling myself its just something I need to come to terms with and move on...and be there for my girls.

Also need to start working on GAL again, I had backed off around the holidays to try and spend as much time with my girls as I could. I just knew its was a matter of time I would not see them every day anymore.