"What would you say have caused him to have these feelings? Things that you have done, or is it something with him?" sorry denver, do you mean the feelings of not being able to sustain this marriage? i guess, it's from both of us he is from a very nonconventional family (mom left them, dad married 5 times, he left home at 17) while i am from the never been divorced, parents still together kind. i know i have taken our things for granted, as he has because of the nature of our careers, we are not together all the time...which actually suits both of us but we do not take the time to reconnect when he gets off the road when he gets home, i usually take more work we also help take care of my parents and stay with them (even tho we have our own place) he has taken great pride in that and is amazing with them but it has not helped our relationship THE BIG THING THO - according to him, is that when i get really frustrated with him - i tell him "if you want a divorce, you can have it - i am not going to fight you" he keeps going back to that and while to me they are just words i don't mean, they may have done serious damage..or that can be just an excuse he needs i don't know
