Details, M-21years, T-28, s-19,s-16,D-12 Start of MLC June 2009, SemiBomb - March 2010 Suffered own MLC which ended January 2003 lasted 2 1/2 years.
Is there another guy - At this point do not think so. I know many people and it was checked thoroughly in beginning.
Typical MLC stuff: Gym, exercising, losing weight going out etc. Is not happy. Definite anger towards me and her family. She has cut any and all family ties at this point.
We actually had a very physically, emotionally close relationship for years. This is from both our perspectives as we talked about it a lot. All that changed beginning in June 2009.
I will say I don't think my wife has the tools or will look internally at her problems unlessed forced to. Having gone through MLC that is the only way through it. It is a trip through H@ll. I am glad i made the trip now that it is over. The peacefulness I have now is wonderful I wish I could say this is not the case for my wife because I do love my wife and hope she will get through it.
Understanding going through MLC is the most difficult trip you will ever take. The pain is huge for LBS but Having been on both sides of the fence MLC is brutal.
I am taking my wifes MLC fairly well and have been detached for quite a while. My good and bad days are not about 50/50 18 months into this. The GAL activities have expanded my life which I needed.
I will admit I am torn at this point between how long to wait and when to move on. I see MLC all over the place now having been one. The majority of people i come across are stuck or there journey through is taking quite a bit of time.
I know its my choice and I pray everyday for more clarity to my situation. Both for myself and my kids. I do know I will be alright either way.
