. I would like for us be able to go out for dinner with our son, once every week, by February.
Have to be careful here, and not pursue her.
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2. It would be great if we became thoughtful, caring and sincere, rather than like roommates or strangers, by April.
Can't make goals for her, only yourself. You can work at being thoughful, caring & sincere.....as long as it's to make you a better person....and not pursuing her.
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3. I want to be a calmer, more considerate person.
This can be your goal every day. I'm sure you will get plenty of opportunities.
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Develop closer friendships, and have myself be accountable to them for my addiction and backsliding.
Might want to consider the board members here for that job.
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This may sound odd to some, but letting my yes be yes, and my no be no. As a former porn addict and subsequent liar, often my answers would consist of yeah, sure, nah, why not, nope, etc. Basically I'm being firmer in my resolve and/or answers.
No odd at all.
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Be able to apologize and be accountable for my mistakes, past or present, rather than be defensive (also part of the porn issue), blameful and/or spiteful.
Strengthen my relationship with God and my Christian family. My wife and I had lost that during our marriage.
Strength and honor!
There are a lot of women who feel the man should take care of the cars and see that her car is safe to drive. It doesn't get you any brownie point by giving her the worst of the two cars.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
