who are you?

[Firstlove]

Marmie

Shine a light on it and tell him that you are his PARTNER, and as his PARTNER, you are there for him thru thick and thin, and you will HELP him break this addiction. Addiction is shame based and it is like a drug, there is no such thing as "self-help" if one could help one's self, everyone would do it. I remember reading a quote one time that I liked.

"There is no such thing as a self made man, I distinctly remember making him myself"
- God

I have been married for 33 years so I have a little bit of license here to speak about marriage voids and problems. I am here seeking one thing in my future marriage with my wife, who remains today as the love of my life. Know what I am excited about when I look to our future together, and IF we can achieve this together, it will be more intoxicating than ANY kind of porn out there, IF we can achieve this in our relationship, it will be like sexual NAPLAM, so intoxicating we will BOTH become ADDICTED to this "drug". Know what that "drug" I want to bring to our marriage is, and get us both addicted to it? Here is its, this very addicting exciting intoxicating drug is called...........

Honesty

And I want the Honesty drug in our marriage 100% pure - not diluted with any secrecy, hiding things or whatever one lurks around in the dark alone - wanting - needing- aching for, etc. etc. I want my drug in its purest form and I want it injected into my heart and soul and have that fuel me each and every hour.

IF we can accomplish THAT in our marriage, we surely will have this, which is what I ache for in my life

"Love - a friendship on fire with your best friend"

And you cannot have that - if you don't have 100% honesty.

Just my two cents worth here

Mr. Firstlove