Thank you for your posts Beatrice, Snodderly, CW and Brook. I have been deeply processing everything that has been written to me. I need to thank everyone for trying to help me regain my balance. I know your wisdom did not come without intense pain.
I do have a question. My H informed me that D papers were coming. It is obvious in them that he believes we will be using one L. Do I tell him that I will be seeing a L, or do I tell him after the fact, or not at all, and let it blindside him?
I know as sure as I'm sitting here that the first and foremost threat that he will use when he finds out is that we will have to sell the house. I also know that I've taken the burden of the house off of him for a year now. He's paid nothing even though his name is still on it. If he wants to sell to get 'even' with me or as a punishment, he will be cutting off his nose to spite his face as it will cost him a whole lot to get it ready to sell.
He's had it pretty good for the time he's been gone. By his choice it will probably get pretty ugly for a while.
I am taking the advice of everyone who has posted to me and going after my share. I will be fair while treating this as a business transaction. Some wise one told me that I wouldn't let a business partner cheat me. This is where my mindset has to be. 28 years has been reduced to a business deal.
Thank you again to everyone who has helped pull me out of the pit. I am blessed to have found you all.
