If she is beyond done, why does she give a sh*t. Why is she asking about your job, where your living, finances, etc. etc?

Maybe I am not caught up on your sitch, but why do these things affect her, if she is done?

What would they matter to her?

H-40 W-38
Together-20
Married-12
boy-7 girl-3
bomb-9/17/10
No papers
live together
No affair