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[habitacker]

I will have to take some time to think about this.

She mentioned in out talk that she doesn't remember what she did for herself that was fun, or what made her happy. I think she feels like she lost her identity.

I feel guilty going out, and it is hard to offer her equal time to go out and do something when she never does anything, she never has. She really has no friends other than the people she works with.

I have tried to remember what she did for fun, or what made her happy. The only thing I can come up with is me. I remember her having fun and being happy with me.

I do not understand why she feels I did something to take away her identity. The only thing I can come up with is that over the years I got involved with hobby's and so much other stuff. I had a life other than her, she didn't. Maybe that is what happened, she depended on me completely for her happiness, somewhat the way I am for her since the bomb. For our 8 dating years, and our first 3 or 4 years of marriage nothing else was involved other than eachother, and it was great, but when I started spending so much time on things such as hobby's, it left her with not much.

It must be like you say, being to dependant on eachother for happiness can be dangerous. It is wonderful when you both give 100% of our attention to eachother, but when other interests get involved on only one side of the sitch, someone gets left out in the cold if they have nothing else in their lives.

I got so busy, I didn't do much with her. She didn't know what to do without me. Now, I don't know what to do without her, and she wants nothing to do with me. What a vicious circle.