WAW tearing up our family

[Denver_2010]

Ugg .. this woman is crazy.

She asked for a kiss last night .... then today said that she hasn't picked an apartment yet because she "is afraid of change". Yeah, the woman who wants to split up her family, sell our house, etc. etc. is so afraid of change.

I really feel like just telling her to leave already. I'm sick of her telling me she is leaving and then she doesn't. Then everytime I see she's looking for apartments again it causes my heart to skip a beat. Like I have everything figured out and am ready for what's next ..... then I get these momentary fearful moments because of something she does.

I really don't like her right now. She's not somebody I would want to have a relationship with.

Is this a normal stage of DBing?

Absolutely normal 1Step. My W was an absolute b*tch in the few weeks just prior and just after her move. It really took the physical separation and about 3 weeks of darkness for her to begin to come out of whatever fog she was in. She was just hateful and cold. While I was an emotional basket case and completely devastated, I wouldn't have wanted to spend one more minute with her that way. But, for me, instead of getting angry at her, I turned that anger inwards bc I knew that I had drawn this mean, cold, and hateful person out of her by the way that I had treated her.

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DEnver