I agree, dbmod. Are you a DB coach by any chance, 'cuz I'd like to request you to be my future coach!
I don't think I cut her off completely, but I do distance myself, e.g. let her approach me, or only help or be there for her when the need truly calls for it. The thing is, my love language is actions, but my actions with my wife in the past were more like chores/going through the motions, so probably the 180� you're suggesting I need would be, I'm guessing, either action but with sincerity, or something less action-oriented? Now, the former is subjective territory.
