Having a hard time... II

[Bolt]

WN - just don't make the mistake of pursuing her though. It sounds like you're doing the right thing when it comes to light communication. Let HER dictate the conversation.

It's weird how this works but if you let her lead, she probably will.

It may go like this. She asks a question and you give a short answer. She may then ask another question about something totally unrelated. Definitely answer it but don't try to keep the "conversation" going. She'll probably want to talk more.

That's a good sign. EVEN if it's just for a few seconds more.

BUT let her take the trip. LET her do her thing. If you interfere, it will become the self-fulfilling prophecy. You will push her away and it will become even more difficult.

I know this because I didn't interfere when my W did the same thing. I detached (as much as I could without making her feel I disappeared) and let her do her thing.

It worked because she is on her way back to me emotionally. ALSO, I asked her what would have happened if I did interfere? She said, without question, she would have gone for the D.

So, listen to that and let her do it. She may find out that the time away from you is good for her BUT she may also miss something about you as well.

Be patient and BE STRONG!!! A few months of pain will be worth the years of pleasure and bliss, right? Think of it that way.