Thanks for the input Angel. All of you are right of course. I just have a hard time when my buttons get pushed.
I get the sense that W is so lost and stubborn that it might be best for her to be gone, before anything changes inside her, like her feelings for me or OM.
She's always been a restless spirit, never content unless planning something or involved in something or at a party or on a trip - she could never sit still - always looking for something to make her happy, for that elusive "happiness".
I truly wonder if the only way she'll ever realize that I am not the source of her misery is if I am no longer in the picture. And believe me, at this juncture in the sitch, she is quite misrable.
And yet - even though her fantasy is being shaken, I appear to be the cause, but she is just pigheaded enough to suffer having to move to a shabby little apt. by herself simply to justify her liberty.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."