A slow turn

[Bolt]

grr - thanks for the response. I understand how you can let life (read career) get in the way. That's what got me into this sitch. I work in TV also - I smell a theme...
I wish you the best every day.

LIS - I'm not sure what stage. I went to SF yesterday and reread the DB book on the flights and am am still trying to figure that out.

We did a check in today and it went well. I stated things that I was grateful for - the touches, the gestures, the compliments - I was very specific.

Then I talked about what bothered me - texting when the four of us are in the car talking. I felt unimportant and told her that. I DID also say that part of the proposed solution was for me to give her a little more alone time so she can do that sort of thing. She's a habitual chatter/facebook/surf the web gal. I told her that she should spend the time chatting with the people she was actually with.

She agreed.

I then said what I want to do for the week - be patient, continue the fight for her, stay positive...

She did a lot of crying when it was her turn. Initially it was hard for her to remember the good things I did. She had basically become numb to me because she was afraid to let down the walls. I let her think and didn't lead her to answers.

She did say the things that made her feel good and did like them. I reminded her that those gestures were to show her that she can be loved.

That brought the tears. I can't believe I've gone so long without telling her, well actually SHOWING her how I love her. I took her for granted.

She then tried to think of the negatives and started crying again. She said that she had (remember the past tense) become numb that she didn't remember the positive or the negative.

It was the perfect time for a hug.

I swooped in and rescued my princess and said, "I'm here to protect you from this pain." I also told her to feel secure by letting a brick out of that wall so she can feel even more love.

More tears.

We did talk a bit more - we're thinking of moving and she's very confused about what to do. I have supported her and am cool with whatever we do. She did say, "I just want someone to say it'll be ok."

Perfect hug time again

I grabbed her, looked her in the eyes and said, "It'll be ok."

I do so love this new person I'm becoming because it really feels great to make someone especially your soul mate, feel good about themselves.

We do have a long way to go but it's definitely on the right path.

So LIS, I'm trying to figure out what stage I'm in for sure and do according to the plan.

Thanks for the encouraging words. I truly hope that I'm encouraging others but remember, everyone's sitch is different. I think I'm truly blessed to have the woman that I do. I'm also blessed with the fact that I know my W better than anyone else on this planet.

The coolest part? She knows that too...