second verse same as the first

[FellOnBlackDays]

2step,
Don't worry about that "shame" thing with your friends. I do it too. I hate being around couples that we used to hang out with when we were together. They are together and I am standing there alone. Stupidly, you imagine in your mind that the men are standing there thinking, "I knew she was too much woman for him." And you convince yourself that the women are thinking, "I knew she was unhappy all along. I don't know why she was ever with him." But they aren't thinking that at all. Most of them truly feel hurt for you and the sitch you are in. So many of my friends have pulled me aside and said, "Dude, if I could snap my fingers and bring her home right now, I would do it for you in an instant. Hang in there. We are here for you." But, you are right. As men, we feel embarrassment and shame for losing our W's. I talked to my C about this and he told me the same thing. "(name), there is no shame in this. It happens to everyone at some point. If you are driving down the highway and someone else hits you, do you feel responsible? Do you feel shame?. Same applies here. You got hit, but don't let it kill you. Get off the mat and start fighting!"

Hold your head high today, buddy. You took care of your daughter on her special day. Right now she is probably in bed thinking, "My daddy is awesome." Years from now, she is going to remember that you were there for her and her mother was thousands of miles away. You were a good father first and you took care of yourself second. That is what a good father does. I am proud of you. Focus on that.

As for your sitch, I don't have the answers you want. But, I want to offer this analogy to think about the next time you are down. I came up with this today while I was driving home. Do you like football? I love football. So I want you to imagine your sitch as a football game between two big rivals like Alabama/Auburn or Ohio St./Michigan. If you have ever sat in the stands pulling for your team in a big rivalry game like this, you will understand. Stay with me. Games aren't won in the first quarter. Games are won in the second quarter. Games aren't won in the third quarter. Games are won in the fourth quarter and the fourth quarter only. You and your W are at best at halftime right now. If your team gets up by a TD in the second quarter, you don't pack up your stuff and go home right? If the opposing team gets up by 14 in the third quarter, do you leave the game? NO! A good football fan knows that no lead is safe whether you are losing or winning. So, when you suffer a setback with your sitch, all that is is the other team scoring a TD. It is not the end of the game, it just means you have to work a little harder on the next possession. But, no matter what, the game is still undecided.

A couple of years ago, my favorite college team was down by 27 points in the third quarter of a game where their opponent was quite inferior. It was absolutely absurd my team was losing this game. People started boo'ing and leaving the game. The coach changed the QB in the middle of the 3rd quarter. All of a sudden, my boys started coming back. It turned out to be the largest second-half comeback in the history of the program. They ended up winning by a TD. And all those jack-wagons that boo'ed and left missed it. They missed seeing history because they left the game early. They packed it in, accepted defeat and went home. Is that what you are going to do? Yes, you are down right now to your opponent. But, are you just going to take your helmet off and leave the field for good in the third quarter? Imagine if an NFL player were to do that? Dude, you are still in this game. You have been practicing your butt off, working on your game plan and executing your plays. Don't quit now. IT IS ONLY THE THIRD QUARTER. There is still plenty of time on the clock and you have the plan and the players to execute a comeback. The game is only over when the clock reads 00:00. And you still have a long way to go until that time.

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD