I am chuckling over here about your recent ebb of complaints...lol.
When I realized that things were amiss in my marriage. I started to change things I did. I started reading more. I started exercising more. I paid more attention to the wife and kids. This is what drove my ex away. But in all honesty, I held back. I knew my pot smoking was a problem. But I held onto it as a bargaining chip. Looking back, I asked myself, why the hell didn't I just give it all up for the marriage. I have no answer. But you mentioning your H's refusal to commit sparked my memory. I was selfish. Your H is selfish. It is controlling behavior. He doesn't want his world to be upset. And he doesn't think you will go anywhere. Your needs are unimportant.
Ok, I know nothing is changing this weekend, and I have to finish up at work and head to dotto's. Too bad you won't be there.
