New and need help.

[zengypsy]

WOW SW. I can relate to the list of things your W posted in her email to you because my H has said almost the same things to me give or take 1 or 2. And boy do they sting. I'm sure you are disbelief that she feels this way. I know I was with my H; he never expressed his disdain for the marriage until he decided to up and leave.

I fully agree with CW. She has given some good advice about recognizing those things she said to you on the list and start working on them for yourself. It's all about you now and making the changes. Your W feels like you have made promises you can't keep, her trust has disapated for you. You have to leave her alone and let her work thru her stuff in her own way and time. If you contact her in anyway, it will pursuing and as you know from reading DB, HUGE mistake. Start with some 180's. Do things the opposite of what you have been doing. It will throw her off track because she's so used to seeing you one way and doing things a certain way. It's gonna be hard; trust me I know. I struggle every day at certain times of the day but with this fab forum that I lean on ALOT and the grace of God, I make it thru yet another day. You will too. Have you read Divorce Remedy as well as DB? If not, it mite be worth an extended read.

We're here for you.

Peace - ZG