in c we (the c and I) tried to get h to understand the importance of making time...asked that h give one night a week for "us" time. H couldn't or wouldn't commit to it. basically there was a whole lot of bitterness and despair being flung about the room and c didn't seem to know what the heck to do with us so I said the hell with it and stopped going.
our sessions typically started with c asking us how things have been going and what we have been doing...I'd typically let h go first and was always baffled by his thoughts that things were going well...then he'd get "pissed off" to hear that I was a tad less than thrilled about things...then he'd accuse me of not appreciating anything yada yada yada...it was a waist.
suppose the thing to do is stop complaining. anywhere about him. Will that change things? I don't complain nearly as much as I used to if you can believe that!
