New to midlife from newcomers under seperating: Journaling: now into this approx 17 months from start. Had to meet with wife concerning our properties. I am a calm person and choose to be this way in life. My wife moved out Jan 1 after a lengthy in house seperation. We eventually get to talking about R. She wants nothing to do with married life. After 21 years of marriage she is done. I continue to validate and GAL. There has been no divorce talk.
she is MLC(i have no doubts) she has projected this fantasy that living by herself is where she needs to go and that is what she is going to do. I told her that I will let you go and understand your feelings on this.
We will occasionally text becasue of the kids but that is basically the extent of communication. There really is nothing I can do except let her run this journey. I would love to tell everybody I am strong and I am better after 17 months of this but it is a tough road mentally. What she thinks is not the truth like she will still be a mother to the kids. My sons 19 and 16 live with me full time with the 19 yr old soon leaving and I have my daughter about 60%. So her fantasy is shes a great mother which is not true. She is there in body but in the fog of MLC.
It's my decison where I go from here. I've been standing and also GAL but my GAl is now allowing me to meet some women who would like to go out. I am keeping it all just as a friends thing but you get to a point where you have to move on.
I am just venting here and I know a lot of you are in the same boat.
