We did physically sat an arms lenght from one another with S13 in the middle. Just small chat. No big talk. She even initiated the chat at one point just to ask me not to label people...I was asking S13 about this little kid who was behaving differently. I told S13 the kid may be special ed. So W told me "Joel, don't label people, that's not right". I told her I was sorry.
This afternoon, we swapped the boys after I had them for the weekend. I just approached my W and told her I'd like to sit down with her, at her convenience, and talk about a few things such as financial support, etc. She wanted to talk at S13's BB game, but I said it would be better if we sit down away from any distraction and just talk about things.
She said OK after a little convincing on my part. Just asked me to tell her where we would meet this TUE, before or after S13's game. I have to tell you, I know one of the topic would be financial. I just got my severance pay from the Army. I want to support her and the kids, how much to give, etc...?
Next, I kind of want to ask her where all this is going, the R, the 2.5 yrs limbo, what to do about it, if she wants a D, etc, etc. What is best to ask? Shall I approach all this? Don't know what would be best at this point.
W never mentions D. Hasn't for a long while. Never mentions it with me. She does seem to do silent treatment ever since I emailed her that she changed and became vindictive, mean, and angry. I got it...my mistake...But I told her today that the silent tretment only works so much, but we need to sit down and talk civilly about things.
Anyway. She did agree to sit down. Probably about money issues. Then again, I don't know. So this is good news, kinda mixed good news, not sure.
Had a great time with the boys. At least that's one good positive outcome.
Joel
Me:44 WAW:43 Children S13,S11,S7 Married 17 yrs W left JUN 08 W filed JAN 09 D proceedings dismissed AUG 09 W refiles 1 MAR 11
