I was driving home from having lunch with my son (Sundays are my days with him), and my while calls from the mall parking lot. Turns ot the car won't start again. I was thinking, "rats, not again". I had a hunch it was the starter, so I asked her to find a screwdriver in the back and use it to give the starter a whack. Before I could continue and say that I was on the way to her anyway, she starts crying and say that this is so like me to never treat her like a real husband would...
A short background story is in order here. There was one occasion in particular when her car was steaming close to home, and I was home with our child. I admit that I didn't respond like a knight in shining armor should and asked her if she could nurse the car back home. She has been mad at me over dad ever since, understandably.
...So anyway, back to the present. I told her I was already on the freeway towards her direction. She said while crying that I'm not her husband anymore, so I shouldn't be coming out there. i said, I still see you as my wife though, and I'm on my way. Don't worry, okay? She replied pretty much the same way, e.g. I'm not her husband anymore and this just reminds her of why I was a lousy husband. I said I'll be there, don't worry. And she just hung up.
Did I just screw up by offering my help and reinforcing my role as a doormat? I read in another thread here that by offering services and help continue to make me less attractive to my spouse. Then again, I'm going on advice that I should try to be her best friend right now, and be there for her when possible. Which is which?
