M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
I'd really welcome some advice from the guys (girls too!) as to what they may think bad choices my H is making....
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Zen, does it really matter what choices he's making? You can't help him, he doesn't want your help.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
Cannot agree more with you on that. This is the second weekend by myself at home. It is a nightmare. My thoughts are constantly running all over. I feel like just sleeping through sat and sun and wake up monday. I never knew that i would end up liking going to work on Mondays so much I now dread Fridays.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
I totally understand that and I know that no one can help him. He's got to crash and burn on his own. ALl I'm saying is that I hope these bad choices he's making are safe even if they are made in his MLC fog.
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Well, I was just watching my wedding DVD. When we got married in 1994 there were no such things as DVD's. About 6 mos ago, I decided to get it put on DVD. Why since we were seperated? Because it was one of thee happiest time in my life and alot of people that came to our wedding have since passed away. Alot of them taken from us too soon. Certain parts were hard. I cried especially when I saw my mom but I really watched my H in this DVD and I can 150% confirm that there was a time when he truly loved me. I saw it in our wedding DVD and I hadn't watched this prob in 14 years. I take comfort in knowing that and I also think of how we got in this awful place. Lastly, it just confirmed for me what my heart and head have known all along and that is my H is and always will be my soulmate and the love of my life. I will continue to pray that he finds his way back home even after our D is final in a few weeks. Hey, a girl can dream can't she? And it's been known to happen.
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
oh...i'm so sorry...i know how you are feeling right now i have been looking at old pictures and reading old letters and just torturing myself of course he loved you and probably always will we both need to stay the course and stay hopeful, while at the same time try to move forward for ourselves lots of love tonight and we will get through this take strength in the knowledge that your mom is always near and she wants you to be happy you are never truly alone
grrr TY - your words were just what I needed. Back at ya my friend!
Peace and Hugs - ZG
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
It's funny I did the same thing tonight also. Just saw some pictures and broke down for what seemed like hours. Hang in there gypsy your determination is inspiring to me. You know I live about 20min from CT. Wish we could meet up for some coffee in the city. I could use the company from someone who understands
I now dread Fridays.