what is it you don't see? each time I do something different and/or look at the sit differently you come back and tell me nothings changed, I'm still misserable and h is a lug.
what if h isn't a total lug? what if h in sensing my underlying icky mood asks what's wrong? helps out with the kids a bit more even if to tell them not to jump on me? calls an extra time that day? does the dishes (though I wish he would just put them in the dishwasher but I've learned not to complain about HOW things get done as long as they are getting done.)
what have I been doing differently this week? well for one imp I went out last night. Now that in and of itself may seem like not a big deal but...I was out tues wed and thurs night for classes and training, in the past on a week like that I would have taken h into consideration and said to myself...ll you've been out too many nights this week don't go out to play. I went anyway...why? cause I wanted to...h didn't even know where I was going til the last minute only knew who I was going with...did it make a difference? well let's see? when I came home from the training sessions (in h's mind a safe place for ll to be) h was sound asleep....last night I was home later (much) and h was awake enough to hear me come in the door (hmmm waiting up for LL? but trying to not make it obvious?)
if you aren't telling me to loose h then what are you suggesting I do? it's obviously not trying to look at the big pic cause when I do that you point out that tommorow will suck again. it's obviosly not focussing on what is going well cause when I do that you seem to point out that it doesn't mean anything and tommorow will suck again? (ie the day h drove into boston with me)
