Till death do us part... or she leaves...

[zengypsy]

FOBD

We have ALL been where you are.

Sometimes it seems so bad you can't handle it.

But you can and you will.

Me? I use to have dreams about my W, wake up and throw up.

Everyone has some similar thing when they realize how much their M and their spouse has brought so much joy and pain upon them.

This is a process and the pain and heartache is part of it.

It propels you forward.

I like your BITS. You guys need each other. You are in this together.

I can tell you the friends I have made on these boards and those that walked along side me are some of the best people I have had the pleasure to know in my life.

Keep steppin.

FOBD - What TG says is true. He is a straight shooter. We all have our bad days; it's the rollercoaster ride. Yesterday was blah for me today is going better even tho my STBXH called. I didn't answer the phone because it's about our pending court date on 2/8/11.

We will never know why our WAS's have left the best thing that they couldpossibly have in their lives. I truly believe that they are on some mortality quest. Truth is, there is none. Imagine looking and looking for something that just isn't out there. I've said it before; it's like tires spinning in the mud. Ya gotta have some empathy for them even though they hurt us bad and on some level we have hurt them to the difference is WE chose to take the higher road, take accountability, get ourselves better etc. If your W is like my H, he said that my recognition is a little too late. IMHO, I don't think so but he has to get there and realize. Our mutual trust is broken and it's hard to remain friends at the moment when/if he's involved with an OW. The fog will lift. I have to believe that, I've been told it does happen. But as Michelle says in her book, it takes time and patience. WAS and MLC'ers are one in the same IMHO.

We are here for you. You got your posse on this board. We are all in the Newcomers forum for a reason. We are never going to turn our back on you.

Get back on track - you inspire others and yourself. Keep moving in a forward, positive direction.

Peace - ZG