Hope, keep in mind that you need to stay steady and level regardless of what they are 'throwing' at you.

Their mood swing is not necessarily based on anything you did or did not do. Their mood swing should not make your mood swing.

You mentioned in your last thread about respect, and the book you are reading. That is a great book. Reminder that respect is not automatic, it is earned. The H I married had my total respect for the man he was then but when he went over the edge I could not respect him any longer. I was not proud of who he was and his behavior, I hated wearing clothing that supported his business and I stopped. That doesn't mean I ever stopped loving him but many days I had to look for it.

How can you earn repect from your H and your SS's?

Live your life while you are still living.
Riding the trail less traveled.