It states where you are, it is not confrontational, it states that you will live by the only thing you control, and leaves the ball in her court. You validate that she has her own choices to make and is free to make them.
It's not mean or spiteful.
If you don't say it to her that's fine, but read the words ...
It is a different perspective than the one you currently have.
I agree with Truegritter Pickle. I used those on my W about a month ago and it really worked for me. It let my W know where I stood and put all of the onus on her to destroy our M and family. Saying it also helped my attitude towards the whole thing.
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Dmod - My posts are NOT showing, as usual. Can I get a little love?
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
