Wow, Alb, all I can say is that this shows that even if the affair ends, things don't just go back to they way they were. It sort of shows that the affair again is just a symptom of a larger problem.
I think for a long time I was envying people on the forums who were in a place where the affair was over and they were piecing, but after reading this, I don't. I think it must be very difficult for you. I have you in my thoughts. Your journey is still very difficult but at least you're in a position where you're strong and have skills to deal with his confusion.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying