I believe God has brought you to my thread to keep my stand strong. I do believe that God will let me know when it is time to move on, but honestly I do not expect that from Him. My D16 and I went to Mass tonight and it was wonderful. The more wondrous part was after Mass, so many people came up and told me they were praying for us. After we got home I got a FB message from the organist who said I looked so beautiful and she could tell the God is with me. God keeps telling me things are going to be okay!
Hold those thoughts as time goes on; God can and may show the outcome to the LBS through their intuition or through other people.
But though He will warn you the road will be long and hard, He will not show you the exact path you must take to get to the outcome; and many things can change because of circumstances along the way.
Some for the better, some for the worse; take it all in stride, knowing God has everything in His control.
He will comfort you during the times that things won't look right, smell right, nor taste right...and He will guide you into what you need to do or say in regards to your husband when the time is right.
Follow His instruction; EVEN if it seems to go against what you've been taught all your life; His way is the way of teaching us to set boundaries; speaking the truth in love, and standing up for ourselves against others who would hurt us.
He teaches us through the trial/crisis to be good stewards of ourselves; and care for ourselves more effectively.
For now, you are on the journey to wholeness and healing; asking the Lord to show you the areas within yourself that need growth and improvement.
God doesn't show us the worst parts of ourselves to hurt us; it's to help us. He will, in turn, help us to understand HOW we must change to grow into what He means for us to be.
There are many things learned on this journey; and change is on the agenda at the moment.
It takes TIME to see, grow and change; there is no time limit on your journey..it will complete when it's supposed to.
You're going to be fine; this much I can see.
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You are in my prayers HB that your marriage will continue to be strengthened through your faithfulness to God.
I thank you for the prayers; and you are in mine, as well.
God is an integral part of my life; always has been, always will be.
When the crisis came upon us, I was, at best, settled...and God never wants us in this kind of shape. Everything that happened challenged me to become a better person; and a better servant for the Lord.
I'm STILL growing, learning and changing...none of that stopped, even though my journey completed itself in time...I'm on yet another journey; learning something else; and drawing closer to the Lord as time goes on.
I would NOT trade the time spent in the crisis for anything..it was a true attention-getter for me; and if it hadn't happened; I would not have the marriage I have now, nor would I be walking as closely with the Lord, as I do, now.
Time heals all wounds; and that is ongoing throughout the crisis...you will, in time, find acceptance, (accepting what was done) forgiveness;(forgiving the person who did it) and healing(from all of the emotional pain) in time.
Forgiveness will most likely be done in stages; it's hard to forgive the wrongs done to us; but God helps us with this.
Have a good one.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
