I know it seems there is no way to win in this right now.
You are in a war because you keep fighting her.
You keep fighting what she wants. That is not you or your M right now.
She thinks you aren't listening to her and you haven't been.
I am not saying to agree with her on this other man crap. But that is still HER choice.
If you lay down your gun...
Will she keep firing away?
You control YOU Pickle
and that is all you control.
You want the animosity to stop you CAN stop it.
And should stop it regardless of the outcome of your M.
I understand your anger but it is not getting you or your family anywhere but to a world of hurt.
I disagree with you about the words I suggested.
It states where you are, it is not confrontational, it states that you will live by the only thing you control, and leaves the ball in her court. You validate that she has her own choices to make and is free to make them.
It's not mean or spiteful.
If you don't say it to her that's fine, but read the words ...
It is a different perspective than the one you currently have.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
