Okay, Sandi (don't mean to hijack this thread but a question).

My sitch is the exact opposite. W wants a "best friend" living like bro & sis while she pursues single life and OM. And the fact that I am not cooperating (doormatting) is driving her out the door. In fact she's aleady served me. I know I am doing the "right" thing, but according to DB principles it's clearly "not working" and increasing the chasm between us.

What do you think?

Me 53 XW 50
M 18 Years +2
S14 D19
Bomb 10-24-10
Served 1-27-11
Mediate 4-21-11
Civil D Final 6-2-11
No church anullment
"A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."