FMV, I agree that, going from withdrawal to sharing is too big a step for now. I won't expect that of myself for now.
What I'm doing is identifying the feelings beyond annoyed and angry--such as disappointment and frustration. When I do that privately, I feel lighter. There's an honesty to it. I than feel the freedom to do what I want with it. If I were to speak about it, it would come from a grounded place. I'm also more able to see my W's actions and words for what they are--her struggles whether with herself or me.
What I'm doing now is trying to listen to her and understand what she's trying to communicate. It's still diffiuclt to be on the receiving end of criticism. I try to remember the premise of Hold Me Tight, that behind criticism is a partner who's trying to connect with you.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
