hey denver... thanks, i really needed to hear that he is away for a week (which on many levels helps, it makes everything seem a bit more normal, as he travels for work and is away more than half the time) so it would be a good time to start the process over i have been backsliding way too much and tho he is willing to talk, i know that it just aggravates him and does put pressure on him i am looking for a answer he is not prepared to give i needed that cold water wake up and appreciate it it is hard, however, to think of him out on the road, wondering if he is going to act like a "single guy" but i cant do anything about what he does, can i? thanks again denver...