Saying "I don't know" is pretty honest. Your H probably thinks since you are so bold to say things like you say that you won't do them. But I do think you fear really pushing him as I have seen that before. I have been coming to this board for a long time and have seen similar situations.
It just seems to me that you are very unhappy and know that your H is never going to give you what you desire. As for the impression, unhappy is unhappy. I know that you were unhappy at the last get together, but I haven't seen your face and eyes lately.
Also, I do believe men will stay in a comfort zone forever. I did that. It took a catastrophe for me to be willing to change at which time, I was unable to deal rationally with the situation. But it did get me to change. The counselors I have spoken with have backed me up on this. Your H's lack of concern fits that pattern.
LL, I just want to see you happy, one way or another. Life is too short to wait.
