I was just thinking about God and all the wondrous things He has done in my life. One of them was my H. Another quick story of how God works. The day I met my H a friend introduced us. When she introduced his name to me, the thought went through my head "he will be your husband"! I kid you not! I was thinking I was hearings, but after pondering about it, I realized that it was God speaking to me. Granted, we did not date for about 6 months, but we became best friends first. When H asked me out for that first date I was nervous about losing him as a friend, but I remembered what God said about him being my husband. The rest is history and only God can guide me through this time. God is ever faithful, especially reminding me of this wonderful time in my life.
It's His way of showing you that He had put the two of you together; and His way of encouraging you to stand for your marriage.
God knows what is ahead; and we don't; that's why it is needful for us to trust in Him for whatever outcome comes about as a result of the crisis, or whatever else we may face in this life.
His word says He will never leave us nor forsake us; and I know that to be the truth; as He's always there, sharing in the joys and the sorrows..an ever present help in time of need.
No matter how this comes out; you'll know that you did everything you could do to try and pull your marriage back together.
I had to come to the realization sometime during his crisis that my marriage might NOT make it through,(this was IF my husband had decided NOT to continue with me; the Lord showed me this possibility as part of my learning during that time), learn to be all right, no matter what happened, and still trusted the Lord for the outcome.
In time you will see different things, mostly in hindsight; these will increase your understanding, but you'll also see some things ahead, as the Lord guides you through this trial.
One day at a time, one step at a time; is all you can do; placing all of your trust in the Lord to bring you through each and every day.
I was reading what you went through in your childhood; and I have been in a different position; but was sexually abused three different times by different family members.
On top of that, I was abused, physically and emotionally, throughout my childhood....the emotional abuse continued into my marriage; as my husband suffered from his own issues during that time.
I didn't heal completely from all of the damage I'd suffered, until I went through my transition..but God wrought a healing in me that was beyond anything a human being could do.
Never discount the power of God in your life and marriage; I could not have made it without Him helping me; and holding me during the times when I just couldn't make it any farther.
I gained strength and insight from the trial; and you will, too.
God is always faithful to His Children; and He keeps His promises; and blesses us beyond our own expectations.
There is a great deal of strength that literally "flows" off your posts; and the presence of God surrounds you; protecting you; and wrapping you in His love.
This is a place you want to be in with Him; and, though the road will get harder as time goes on; the strength provided by Him to you will bring you through; when nothing else can.
Take care.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
