My friend, I want you to know that how you are feeling is normal and a necessary part of the journey.
I, too, felt badly about h feeling as if I should not get anything because he worked for years while I was home.
Please don't let your h's rewritten history stop you from seeing things as they were.
I know, without a doubt, that h wanted me to be home when our son was small. I know, without a doubt, that I contributed just as much to the running of our home and our family. I had just as much invested emotionally and spiritually.
And when I began to work, I contributed as much as I could.
We were a team, partners. Nothing he can say can change that fact.
So, I'm sorry your h chooses to remember things differently than how it actually happened.
But you were a vital part of the family as deserve to be treated as such. You helped raise his children for goodness sakes.
Please do not let his anger deter you from getting what is fair.
This is what he wanted. This is how divorce works. Too bad for him if it's not working out the way he planned,
When you meet with your lawyer, have all your questions written out. Tell him or her what you need in order to be able to survive.
Seeking, as you continue of this path, you will know your truths and will learn to accept them.
