I want to thank you all for your interest, input, and kind responses. I need to read and re-read and contemplate what you've written for a while.
I'm a good emotional space today. Last night I seem to have experienced an internal shifting of my perspective and thinking.
Re-reading the whole thread today, I'm seeing what you've all written a little more clearly and with a little more emotional distance. I'm seeing the big picture a bit better instead of bumping my nose up against the canvas.
Some interesting changes too last evening... H. came to pick up the kids and he wanted to talk to me about our kids. Now ordinarily when he stops by I offer him tea, a small snack and a seat at the kitchen table as I do everyone that comes to my home. He usually refuses. This time I didn't offer and he asked me instead. Now, ordinarily he gets out of our home as fast as he can, saying the traffic is awful and he needs to leave to beat the rush. We chatted and he hung around for about an hour and a half. I went for an interview yesterday so I was dressed for that and looked really good, smelled really good and I was calm and cordial through the visit. I think we had a pleasant talk, nothing about the D or R. Positive change...maybe. One off? Perhaps. We'll see.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.