Ready to give up

[blue2010]

Now know this.

This kind of thing is not fixed in a single stroke. And it is not fixed quickly.

It is

She needs space.
She needs a man who remains true to who he is.
She needs a man who is not going to crack when she has a bad day.
She needs a man who means what he says, and who isn't going to cave and change his mind if he doesn't get a positive stroke.

You have a shot. You've just got to get your head right.


Blessings,



Bill

Well kind of glad I reread this. I realize I am staying true to what i say. I am being that rock.
Even though I am tired, and I was out with the kids today and it was prerfectly fun without her that was when my brain went wow I can do this.

She went off this morning about money. She was ready to afford a whole second house and divorce. We now have two car payments because she decided she wanted a new car, I didn't argue and I ended up finding aa reasonable replacement for my constantly in the shop truck.

I just wanted to point out to her how she expected me to afford this house all on my own and all my other expenses as well. With her acting as if she is staying that means her income stays and we have twice as much money. so she must not be seing it through my glassses.
She was on the verge of telling me I should have told her not to buy it and she thinks I have an alterior motive, a bad one I told her no and the I said well yes I do It is to save and rebuild this marriage,

She seems to want to bottle everything up and just try to go back to how it was.

Any part of DB DR that would be a good reference rt now?

Has anyone heard of Retrouaville and the weekends they do?

I feel she wants to reconcile but she won't say it. She won't be transparent yet, I have not asked in 3 weeks. But talk is we for everything. So i don't know.

Any other threads going that might help ?

Thanks everyone.