Pickle you are not going to get anywhere using logic on her.
That is why our advice has been to detach and not get dragged into these discussions.
They go NOWHERE but to Bitterville.
Stand your ground on what is fair in the D. If she wants one she will get one.
You can't stop that.
I am going to give you some words I picked up along the way:
Quote:
W, I've told you before that I still love you and still think that we can have a great life together as both a couple and a family. I've not changed my mind on that. But I understand you are not happy, that you do not feel happy or complete inside.
You need to do what will make you happy. By my side, we live as partners, we share everything and we would do anything to help one another. But that's only if we continue as a team.
I won't stand in your way. But I also will not help you leave this marriage or this family. And I will never accept another person being a part of our life together.
I hope you find the happiness you are looking for. Go do what you need to do. You know where I will be.
Then leave her alone.
It is not the natural thing to do but it is the healthiest.
