What about the rings?

[Ruikee]

In my case, my W took off her ring soon after the bomb, wore it on a family trip around Labor Day and hasn't worn it since. I once made a joke early after the separation about her wearing it and she got mad, so I haven't mentioned it since.

I've been wearing mine almost constantly, though there have been a few times I took the ring off when I was just fed up and didn't care about the relationship anymore. I think the longest it's been off has been 8 hours I've also been playing with it more and more (slipping it on and off, etc.) subconsciously and I think W has noticed but not said anything.

I did notice during our Retrouvaille weekend that most people were wearing their rings, but not all. I'm far enough along in my DBing that while I'd love W to wear her ring, it's no big deal that she doesn't.

I will say, though, that if we do S again like it looks like we might do, I'm more tempted to quit wearing my ring. Let W fully see what it would be like to D. Guess we'll see...

What did you think about retrovaille. It worked for us, until we stopped going the the after meetings. I think that it is well worth it....