Alamo, all of this stuff is nit-picking! She is trying to find some kind of fault so she will feel justified for a D. When you react to this nit-picking, juvenile arguments then you both are acting silly.
There are too many "real" problems to worry about. When she starts to with this foolish type of fight, don't satisfy her by responding. Just turn around and walk away.
Don't try to read her mind, b/c you'll lose yours in the process. If she's nice one day and hateful the next....take it at face value and don't make it more than it is.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
