SA - imo a lot of MLC is about taking power and control in any way they can, it is about getting even with the wrongs that [they think] were done to them when they were powerless.
Sorry, but reasonableness doesn't even enter into it. They want the world to be the way they think it should be. My ex husband most certainly wanted a very different settlement. He actually got a very good deal anyway, but by no means what he wanted. So yes, he resented it a lot. I think a part of him wanted to simply write me out of existence, so he could have all the money and no guilt.
You most certainly do want a lawyer of your own to challenge all of the 'anomalies' in what your h is saying.
Yes, I have been told I agreed to things that I did not agree. They are living in fantasy land and this is sad, but you need income and capital, and you are entitled to a fair share, which will not be what your husband thinks is fair.
It is horrible that they are so mean about everything, but they are different people right now.
Once you have found a lawyer you can work with, you will have someone 'on your side' This will help you to feel less isolated and more empowered. If necessary all correspondence can be routed through the lawyer - I did this and it saved a lot of heartache. My lawyer would read the stuff, and advise me.
