Punkin and Beatrice, thank you so much for your posts and for understanding and support.
Beatrice, during your D proceedings did your XH ever resent what he had to give you in the D agreement? I know my H will be furious when I present my proposals. As far as he is concerned this is a done deal and I agreed to it. This is not speculation or mind reading. This is the way the D papers read. They even say that these things are being done this way because it has been agreed upon. I know that those are just words on the paper, but they are what my H truly thinks and believes.
In reading over the papers I find that H has been giving me $263.00 less in C/S every two weeks for our 2 girls than what his salary indicates he should be paying. In the papers it says we agreed to that because he would pay for Christmas and the girl's school clothes and activities. That adds up to over $6000 less per year than what he should be paying. He doesn't spend near that much between Christmas and school clothes plus activities per year. This was complete news to me as it is something I never agreed to. I also have suspicions about some of the other proposals. Red flags all over the place. He is using 2009 income and what was in his retirement and pension at that time. It would be considerably more now as his place of work picked up in 2010. No legal separation agreement was filed proceeding this so I wonder if we have to base this off of 2009 figures? (He left in Oct. 2009). These questions are why I need a L.
I am going to the lawyer and I will follow his advice. I will tell him I didn't want this. I will follow Snodderly's advice and aim for more than is fair and will be grateful if I can get close to that. It will all cement H's resentment, but it really is his choice.
