Welcome to the community. As you post and read other threads, you will quickly see that you are not alone. There are some wonderful people here who will be your support group.
If you have not read Michele's article on the WAW Syndrome, please do so b/c it explains how the W feels and will give you a better insight.
You are going to enter something similar to boot camp and it's not going to be much fun and you will want to go AWOL at times. Your strength will be tested to the max. However, if you stick to the plan then you will be more prepared to face what life throws at you.
I suggest that you leave your WAW alone. No contacting her in any form (unless it is a true emergency). If she calls or emails you, then keep your response nice and very limited.
Everything that comes from you is like tons of pressure on her. She has walls up all around her just to keep you out. Any contact by you is met with defense from her. No amount of begging, pleading, promises, etc. will do anything but turn her off more.
So, you are left with "you". Time to take a long look at yourself and decide what you need to improve. You need to GAL that does not include her. Time to take action in becoming an attractive male.
You see, you can't expect her to want to return based on the fact you have 33 yrs together. She is through with that. So you have to start over, in a sense, and become a man women find attractive and love to be with him.
How far are you from the man she married?
Set personal goals and make some detailed daily or weekly goals. You have to do this to help you stick with a plan and to stay focused.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
