Thank you for joining us it's always nice for new people to show up and give insight. I appreciate it very much, and thank you for the words of encouragement. The quote was excellent!
FOBD,
How are you feeling? Thanks for stopping by again. I am feeling a little better today than yesterday. I preach and preach about expectations but then I set my own and get let down. Goes to show that this is a learning process and it is much easier to talk than to do. After the text from the flowers 0 contact. That's ok though because one of two things is happening right now. She is either overwhelmed by the contact and needs her space or she is thinking "what am I doing?" of course I hope for the second but it is probably the first.
Denver,
I believe the flowers made her smile and it had the desired effect. You are absolutely right we both right now are in a dangerous place. I believe that we are in a position that what we do now could be the make it or break it point.
What next,
Welcome also to the 2stepboogie saga of what to do and what not to do lol. Validating is important but my biggest fear has been that if I validate too much then I will just be strengthening her position and she would be more determine to go through with the D process. I felt if I validated she would be justified. MY DB coach advised me otherwise and she was right and I was wrong. It seems to really open up conversation with us even though I still have some doubts. Call me doubting Thomas. By the way the OM I had mentioned is from Tulsa lol.
I really appreciate all the feedback guys and really appreciate you guys sticking with me on this. I use a lot of quotes from my W and mine conversation so that I get real feedback based on actual words spoken.
