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Your feelings are your feelings. And that is ok. But are you waiting for them to change? no...more like waiting til they are definite in one direction or the other One of these days you are going to actually take steps to make your life better. hmmmm? have become an emt and will be volunteering with the town, son is in pre-school now and dd may go next year giving me a bit more me time to perhaps go to the gym and not fear getting a call back to the kids room for tears. eventually I may join a payed ambulance service (depending on how much I enjoy the volunteer bit) eventually I will either futher my education with one degree or another (I already have a bs) I make plans with friends and don't bother to check with h first anymore.. What are you afraid of? there could be many answers to that question but I suppose you mean in relation to my marriage? well I fear moving beyond h (not being able to share with him things in my life becuase "he just wouldn't understand" or meeting someone that I am more compatable with or not and nothing getting better with the r despite the fact that my life once again gets full and just peacefully co-exhisting in a m is not what I want.

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I believe h is involved with ow once again...and I believe it is physical in some sense or another...proof? nothing concrete but enough to cast SERIOUS SUSPISSION.

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if anyone's wondering what the "proof" might be...you can check out my inquiry on a thread in sexual issues not a thread in itself but on a thread...aw heck just click my name and see where I last posted you'll get there if you really want to know.

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if anyone's wondering what the "proof" might be...you can check out my inquiry on a thread in sexual issues not a thread in itself but on a thread...aw heck just click my name and see where I last posted you'll get there if you really want to know.

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LL --

harumph.

Should I even ask you what you're doing checking out the goods in the laundry?

Seems like that stuff can be very easily "encouraged" at ones own hand, no?

I'm not trying to dismiss your concerns AT ALL...it just sounds like kind of a rathole to go down...doesn't it?

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LL,

I did mean making life better in terms of your relationship or lack thereof with your H. The other stuff is all good.

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there could be many answers to that question but I suppose you mean in relation to my marriage? well I fear moving beyond h (not being able to share with him things in my life becuase 'he just wouldn't understand' or meeting someone that I am more compatable with or not and nothing getting better with the r despite the fact that my life once again gets full and just peacefully co-exhisting in a m is not what I want.



That is pretty confusing. Seems like you are intellectually far superior to your H. And why would you fear meeting someone with whom you are more compatible? Maybe, you need to think of your life as your life and not in terms of a relationship with a man.

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sage,

if one were to take that matter into their own hands..well ya'd think they'd try to do it neatly (after all don't most men drown them in the shower? why would you leave it in your drawers???

and looking? I do the laundry...noticed...so decided to keep an eye on it...

and thirdly..wtf take it in to your own hands and deny your w the right to do it for you????

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IMP,

why would I fear meeting someone with whom I'm more compatable????

do you like being divorced? do you like the fact that your kids don't live with you?

I fear it because it can happen...obviously it does to so many here.

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if one were to take that matter into their own hands..well ya'd think they'd try to do it neatly (after all don't most men drown them in the shower? why would you leave it in your drawers???




Well..if you weren't taking it in your own hands why would it be there anyway? I guess you're thinking there's been some "assistance" clothed? Is h really gonna hang out all day like that???

Don't know about the shower thing....Seems to me creativity is a real calling card in that area...

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and looking? I do the laundry...noticed...so decided to keep an eye on it...




wasn't trying to be a jerk about it...(not saying that you said I was! whew!) I just wanted to make sure that you weren't in super snoop mode, kiddo

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and thirdly..wtf take it in to your own hands and deny your w the right to do it for you????




2 totally different things, I hear....not an expert on the subject but I do think it really is different for many men and the presence of one doesn't imply much about the presence/absence of the other.

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put it this way sage...h wouldn't need assistance by his own hand or anothers...if there was "some" type of interaction taking place it would happen.

and it's not like I found just one pair...(mind you I originally wasn't snooping) there were several.

and yes h would stay like that if he had to.

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