I see so many similarities in that our H's are going through this AGAIN. I know this means they probably never finished the journey in the first place, but how frustrating.
This time, we have been apart 10 months and I am facing a final separation agreement next week. I'm not going to fight it. I'm letting it happen. Maybe it will work out for us, maybe not. Only God knows. I do know it will be better for me and the family all around to end the crapola.
I know you are not anywhere near that point at this time, and your situation contains different elements from mine. Just to let you know I will be here for you as well, and you can vent anytime. ((HUGS))