Yeah, Barb - believe me, I never considered the young guy ANYTHING but a fling possibility. Anything else would be ridiculous. And while I wasn't really looking for a fling, I started to warm up to the idea after a while - no use sitting on a shelf.
OT - there are lots of singles-oriented activity groups in town (San Diego being a big singles town). I suppose I should start looking into them - frankly, my life is so busy and full I'm not sure where I would fit in another group. But I suppose I would be more likely to meet someone there, than at the punk rock show I'm going to with my bandmate Wendy on Saturday night, lol! (Last time we saw this band I was the oldest person in the room by at least 15 years!)
I am definitely trying to loosen up my criteria a bit as I look at profiles, and I'm fully aware I might meet someone completely different from what I THINK I'm looking for. Just looking for that spark. I definitely had it with the hermit boyfriend, and with the 27 year old.
Hmmmm....did have a thought on my drive home tonight. If the too-young guy was really trying to evaporate - wouldn't he have also removed me from his Yahoo and Skype contacts? Duh.
Maybe there is an explanation for the whole email thing that doesn't involve me. Perhaps I jumped to convulsions. I'll just have to wait and see what happens.
Was watching What Not To Wear the other day, and their victim of the week apparently had been recently dumped. Stacy (who I think is totally obnoxious, but here she said something good) told her:
"If the train doesn't stop at your station, IT'S NOT YOUR TRAIN!"
A good thing to keep in mind for those of us dating, I think.
wow, glad to hear others in my shoes... i'm on a christian site... nothing much til i hit it off for 12 days on chat and txt with this handsome Iraq vet 6hrs from me, he seemed so nice and sweet and we liked the same things... *sigh* long story short, somehow he got spooked -- he asked to meet and talk then never called me on an agreed hour, he wanted to be friend in FB and I told him not until I talked to him...
I got my hopes up... actually felt bad for a while... though it was me sending the email and bringing up the fact that he has 2 kids and 2 exes and has a job and goes to school 6hrs from me... I wasn't going to move if things progressed, neither was he... sigh... still wanted to be friends, but the not calling me and leaving hanging didnt' feel right... he hasn't called, so he's not interested in being friends... so that tells me a lot (or it should, I still wish we'd be friends... and he was cute too, lol)
Anywho, I'm feeling a bit needy, so I should calm down a bit and stop checking my profile on the dating site... lol...but I am a bit put off by men for now... have enough on my plate...
If it's God's will it will happen... we'll see... hate the dating game though...
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Seems to be an internet phenomenon, this whole disappearing-act business. I still haven't heard from the too-young guy, it'd been 3 1/2 weeks now. Is that, like, 2 days in boy time? Or did he just go off in another direction and was too lame to tell me?? I really didn't have him pegged as that kind of lame guy.
It does make you question your ability to judge people.....
Still, the other night a nice-looking 42 year old guy (much more age appropriate - well, relatively) wrote to me online to "acknowledge my awesomeness" I like the sound of that!!!
Ellie - that one sounds good. With the cover of their computer - people say and do almost anything and much of the time without a lot of thought. In real life they wouldn't do half as much. Some "reality" comes from the Internet - like you & I meeting at a vineyard or Josh and my relationship but honestly - there are far more people "play acting" on their computers than there is reality.
I like the sound of that!!!