wife planning long term separation

[Denver_2010]

As was said before, Wife doesnt love me at all right now. I can see it in everything she does, and says. Becoming more distant everyday, and more urgency to get out of the house. I have been detaching more everyday also, so maybe that is why her disregard for my feelings. We are both looking for places for her to live, not going to be easy on the budget we have to work with. She is showing absolutely no remorse on the direction she is taking.
I have been staying very busy. Prior to her letting her feelings known, I was a confident person. All throughout our marriage. I didn't want to change in very many ways. This perhaps was one of my biggest faults, not changing(bending) at all to fit the needs of my wife. This is one of my goals, but I am struggling to find the balance between confidence and good listening skills, and so on. I am trying to look at things in a very different way than I did before. It has softened me alot. I fear this my not be attractive, but I have to keep soul searching, doing my best and let things take their course. She has a ton of resentment towards me, and I just don't think me changing will take that out of her mind. I have to keep on the program, focus, FOCUS!

Typical WAW behavior Shaves. My W acted the exact same way. She moved out 2 months ago and now, things are much better. Sometimes, people do need that physical space to heal from the wounds that they inflict on one another. I definitely think that it is true in my situation. It may be in your's as well. S is not the end and shouldn't be looked at that way. It is only over when you decide it is my friend.

Easier said than done, I know. It will get better.

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Denver